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Get your free audio meditations to overcome anxious and avoidant attachment

GUIDED BY CHANTELLE RAVEN

Humans are wired for attachment

And it all starts when we‘re born
That‘s why babies cry when they‘re separated from their mothers.

We need connection and safety…

As a child, we formed a style of attachment that influences how we experience and navigate close relationships.

This style largely depends on how we felt with our parents during our early years, which impacts our association with love in romantic relationships moving forward.

So knowing your attachment style and how to work with it is a game changer when it comes to creating the most epic relationships possible. Here's how!

Which of these feels most familiar in your relationships?

ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT (THE LOVE ADDICT):

"I want to be emotionally intimate and close, but I always have this feeling of not being good enough and not getting enough."

You might be needy, fearful or clingy, and depend heavily on your partner. You force connection.

AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT (THE LOVE AVOIDER):

"I'd rather not depend on others or have others depend on me. I need to create space the moment it feels "too real". This way, I won't get trapped."

Connection can feel smothering, and you create distance when conflict arises to avoid feeling deeper emotions.

SECURE ATTACHMENT:

"Being close is easy!" "I don't need to hear from him/her constantly because I feel safe, loved, free, and chosen in this relationship."

You balance closeness and independence without fear of losing yourself or overwhelming your partner. You trust others, communicate openly, and can handle the ups and downs of a relationship with a sense of security and stability.

This is what's possible.

Still unsure which attachment style you are?

Here's the thing. You're actually both. Why? There's 2 reasons...

Everyone is on a spectrum between the two attachment styles and these can surface at different times depending on the dynamics with your current partner and where you are on your inner journey.

While consciously you may identify with a specific attachment style, your shadow (aka your unconscious), actually identifies with the opposite attachment style!

All you need to know for now, is that doing both of these meditations (especially if you do them multiple times) is going to support you in a very deep and lasting way.

Imagine being in a
relationship where you can:

Communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries, without fearing your partner will think “you’re too much”

Feel secure, even when disagreements and arguments arise.

Feel confident enough to give your partner space when they ask for it-and honor that space without bombarding them with texts or phone calls.

Embrace emotions in your relationship, whether it’s joy, ease, pleasure, pain, sadness, or anger, and have a healthy way to process and release these feelings.

Stop being “hyper independent” and feel comfortable with asking for help or seeking support from your partner because you’re no longer avoiding genuine, long-term commitment.

To create this for yourself, here are some patterns to be aware of...

ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED

  • Constantly seeking reassurance and affirmation from your partner
  • Feeling jealous and insecure, often worrying excessively about your partner's love
  • High emotional reactivity, leading to frequent, sometimes explosive arguments
  • Difficulty setting boundaries, fearing that expressing your needs might push your partner away
  • Draining on-again/off-again relationship dynamics
  • Having the urge to text/speak instantly when arguments arise, and fearing giving your partner space when they ask for it

AVOIDANTLY ATTACHED

  • Acting overly self-sufficient and rarely sharing your true feelings
  • Protecting your freedom by delaying commitment
  • Creating mental distance in relationships, focusing on flaws or idealizing past experiences
  • Being hyper-vigilant about any attempts to limit your autonomy
  • Prioritizing activities outside the relationship, ignoring or dismissing your partner's needs
  • Over-focusing on your own safety and comfort at the expense of closeness

These patterns don't need to ruin your relationships

Even though you may notice anxious or avoidant attachment behaviors in your relationships, it's not something you need to be stuck with.

Deep, secure, and trusting relationships are possible. These meditations by Chantelle Raven have the exact tools to nurture and heal the anxious and avoidant parts within you...

Are you ready to step into your era of Secure Attachment in Relationships?

In this FREE 30-minute audio meditation to overcome anxious attachment you'll...

  • Uncover the root causes of your emotional instability and learn how to embody ease
  • Develop deep trust in yourself, finding safety in vulnerability
  • Rewire old patterns, so you feel safe to communicate your needs & desires with confidence
  • Embrace your sovereignty and create a rich & fulfilling life outside your relationship
  • Master the art of self-care, sustainability, and self-acceptance, feeling complete and whole

Ready to find this deep security and acceptance within yourself?

Get access to the Anxious Attachment meditation now

In this FREE 30-minute audio meditation to overcome avoidant attachment you'll...

  • Feel deep freedom and independence that nurtures your life, instead of harming it
  • Discover more comfort with emotional intimacy, being at ease to share what's real while knowing you're safe (not overwhelmed)
  • Feel how it is to balance independence and togetherness, maintaining your individuality - while still valuing and enjoying the connection with others
  • Access deep trust that you are being listened to and your needs are understood
  • Know that you are supported and it's safe to ask for help

Ready to feel more at ease with emotional intimacy?

Get access to the Avoidant Attachment meditation now

Home is here, in the body.
You are the one you've been waiting for...

When you work with healing your attachment style in these meditations, you'll eventually access the deeper, more unconscious layers where you realize that you actually have elements of both (anxious and avoidant attachment)..

In order to relate from a space of secure attachment, we recommend starting with the meditation that resonates with you the most (what you're conscious of) and then explore the other meditation (that's in your subconscious - aka, your shadow) and see what insights and gifts it has for you.

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Meditations To Overcome Anxious and Avoidant Attachment

Journey towards healing anxious & avoidant attachment with these 2 meditations to expand into secure attachment.

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