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How to stop worrying about what people think of you + follow your joy


You miss opportunities when you worry about what people think. Rather than doing what nurtures you and gives you juice, you fear how people might perceive you.

Truly, people are most impressed by people who are happy. Joyful. What brings you joy? Is it time with your beloved? Working? Reading? Animals? Exercise? Nature? Art? Don’t lose sight of that.

Believe the opinions of people who know you. These people have your back. They know you, understand you. They’re rooting for you. They also see your areas to grow—and will call you out on your shit.

Trust a few opinions – your mentors, your best friends – and forget the rest.

Honestly, most people are wrapped up in their own world, worrying about what people think of them. Most often, they’re not thinking about you! They’re worrying about themselves.

People are so often trying to prove themselves — to be in, so they don’t get thrown out of their friendships, their community. As if being lovable is actually something you earn. True friendship and love is notsomething you earn — you are loveable as you are. YOU ARE LOVE. Already.

And remember, people are always gonna find an issue with you if they don’t love themselves.

You’re always gonna be too this or too thatfor those people: too expressive, too shy, too rich, too poor, too sexy, too strange. It’s a projection for all the places they’re judging themselves.

And when it comes to looking at people’s lives on social media, remember that we never really know anyone unless we KNOW them. What’s presented to the external world (e.g. IG) is often not what’s going on. You can frame a photograph to omit just what you don’t want to show and include just what you do want to show…

Remember who you are. Remember your ease. Remember your beauty. Remember you got this. Remember you are lovable. Loved. LOVE.

The world needs more lions not sheep: be transparent, follow your heart and share that in the world. Be a fully self-expressed individual.

It might sound cheesy to say, but you could be dead tomorrow! What are you doing with your life?  Stop caring what other people think and follow your heart. Don’t underestimate the power of following your JOY.

Margot Ananda describes Tantra as “choosing with awareness what brings you joy.” I love that.

There are no do-overs. You get this life once. CHOOSE.

Get clear about what you want and then think What’s the worst case scenario if I do follow my joy?

And then… ask yourself What’s the worst case if I don’t follow my heart, my joy?

And then CHOOSE.

You’re enough. You are LOVE. Your joy matters. Let’s see it. We need you.

Chantelle Raven

Chantelle Raven

Chantelle raven is a gifted healer and sought after international speaker on sacred relationship and sacred sexuality. Her mission is providing education in radical self-responsibility and the sacred dance of masculine and feminine within and without.