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What Inspires a Conscious Embodied Man to Fully Choose You?


A man can deeply choose and be in devotion to you only when you are fully choosing and devoting yourself to you

To do this, create space to dance with all of you – feeling, listening, attuning, and loving yourself; shadows and all.

If you cannot truly drop in and feel your pain and pleasure, your nervous system will remain tense and contracted, preventing you from fully being yourself. Your capacity to feel pleasure is only as great as your capacity to feel your pain. If you want to experience the full range of pleasure and joy that’s available to you in this human experience, you must also have the courage to delve into the underworld and feel the full range of your painful emotions. 

When you feel safe being with ALL of you, you are seen for who you truly are and how you truly feel, not as some perfect, “good girl”, polished version of yourself. If you communicate and express yourself from a place of inauthenticity – whether it be because you fear going into the depths of your emotions or because you have fears connected to your expression – you will miss out on being seen and felt in your truth. 

When you are living in a state of inauthenticity, it’s unlikely you will attract a partner or inspire your own partner to commit to you wholly… If you cannot feel yourself fully, in all your authenticity, he cannot feel who you truly are either.

Responding from your body with authentic and embodied expression, letting go of the mind and trusting yourself can be difficult, so instead many people fill the space with what they think are the “right” words or just “sweep it under the rug”. 

This avoidance of what’s real will not cultivate a relationship in which you are fully met…

If you are ready to be chosen fully, here are some of the key pieces to attracting a partner who will do that: 

  1. Start meeting and accepting all of you, every single aspect of your being deserves to be seen and expressed – unapologetically. 
  2. Open to the depths within you and let that be felt and seen. Your vulnerability, your shyness, your fear, your frustration, your sadness, your rage. Let him meet and feel the woman he is choosing… in all her shades and colours.
  3. Let your words arise from the body, not the mind. This means the words will be revealing, rather than controlled. For example, you might say, “I feel angry, can you hold that? or “I feel sad, can you hold me?”. It’s important to keep your heart open during this; it’s not an exercise to freely berate or rage at your partner, but a chance to let them feel how you truly feel from a place of vulnerability. If you are angry that’s perfectly ok, but don’t direct that anger at your partner in unhealthy ways that come from the mind. Instead, let him witness you in your anger, feel it fully in your body and let yourself release it in healthy ways such as pillow punching, hand screaming or shaking.

Let whatever arises be felt and know that you are just as loveable in your tears or range as you are in your ecstasy or bliss. Every single part of you is loveable, you must know and believe that within yourself before you can expect a man to love and fully choose all of you. 

It’s time to take off the masks and make the power choice to live from your authenticity NO MATTER WHAT. Even when you’re scared, let yourself be scared and continue choosing what’s true for you, even when it’s uncomfortable or painful, let yourself feel that without judgment and choose to continue following what’s true for you. 

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Chantelle Raven

Chantelle raven is a gifted healer and sought after international speaker on sacred relationship and sacred sexuality. Her mission is providing education in radical self-responsibility and the sacred dance of masculine and feminine within and without.