Have you ever found yourself wondering if the man who you are seeing or, in relationship with, is the right man for you?
I have somewhat of a guide for you from my own personal experience and from talking deeply in the subject with friends and clients.
You know that a man is right for you if….
You can be in your softness when you are with him.
You don’t have to chase his love, coach him, over-invest or over-give for the relationship to be sustained.
He doesn’t need rescuing or caretaking – he’s not looking for mummy.
He is capable of deep connection, intimacy, commitment and presence.
You don’t need to fill up the space with telling him what to do and leading.
You are RECEIVING as much as, or even more, than you are giving.
You feel held and safe to be vulnerable.
You feel at ease, can relax and be yourself.
Your gut instinct and heart wisdom is a yes!
He turns you on
There is a steadiness and an exhale when you feel him in your heart.
Your body wisdom tells you that you can trust this man
FYI: When trauma overwhelms your body, it can hinder your ability to deeply attune to your inner wisdom and its communications.
Trauma can cloud your perception, preventing you from correctly interpreting cues without the distorted lens of past abuse and experiences.
I can support you in powerful inner work to unguard your heart and release trauma that is held in your body. This trauma may be reinforcing that you need to be in your masculine energy in order to stay safe.
For women with a lot of trauma it can be very hard to be in our feminine softness, intuitive wisdom, receptivity and openness. It can also be very hard to get out of our mind and listen to our bodies because there is so much protection which puts us in our masculine energy.
We have to create safety to come home to the body, listen to our hearts and trust our inner knowing.
We have to come into relationship with our inner compass and naturalness. We also need to rewire any old negative associations with softness, vulnerability and openness.
If you’re struggling with this, know that I’m here to support you.
You can check out my different offerings if you feel that you need individualised guidance HERE.
Chantelle Raven x