I grew up with two very different parents, completely opposite in the way they approached money. One of my parents had a very positive relationship with money; always overflowing and generous, knowing that money would always keep coming in. While my other parent grew up in a house where money was scarce, and that scarcity mindset stayed with them throughout my childhood, even when we had more than enough money.
Each of my parents’ perspectives around money taught me meaningful lessons, however when I delved into my own relationship with money whilst working with one of my mentors, I realised how deeply this opposition of perspectives was still affecting me.
One of the biggest shifting points during this was when my mentor made it very clear to me that a key factor of overcoming limiting beliefs around money is tuning into WHY you want the money and then seeing if you can recalibrate your frequency to match that.
My “why” at the time was that I wanted more spaciousness, however what we want consciously and what we want unconsciously are usually two very different things. I wanted spaciousness in my life, but then when I had that spaciousness, I found myself trying to fill it with things. This is where I had to recalibrate my nervous system into becoming comfortable with being in a more receptive state.
When you’re working with limiting beliefs, you want to address both the conscious and unconscious. The conscious is what you’re aware of, whilst the unconscious is what’s hidden underneath. So how do we access what’s unconscious? Through the body! Start listening to yourself more deeply; if your body is feeling anxious and having a nervous system response of “fight, flight or freeze”, acknowledge that and release it from your body.
We release energy from the body through breath, sound and movement… so scream, shake, roar, punch some pillows or stomp your feet! Discharge all the energy in your body that’s connected to your limiting belief. Once that energy is discharged, you can then fill the space with a new and expansive belief.
My limiting belief was “I need to be working hard all the time to be of value”. I re-wired this negative belief by changing it to one of expansion: “Being in my ease, joy and pleasure is what’s best for my business”.
It’s important to note here that when you’re consciously working on moving into expansion, it’s natural for limiting beliefs to continue coming up. Notice which parts of you start contracting as you’re seeing and feeling this new reality you want to manifest.
Stay with these feelings of contraction; move the energy through your body and ask yourself “where does this limiting belief come from and what’s underneath it?” Let yourself run the energy fully, don’t resist it; allow it to be felt through the body and discharged, as I spoke about earlier. It can be very helpful during this stage to have a mentor guiding you through the process.
I was brought up with the belief of “you spend a dollar, you must save a dollar”. This resulted in me feeling a lot of shame if I spent “too much” money. So, I ran that shame through my body, feeling it fully and releasing it through breath, sound and movement. Once this energy was discharged, I then shifted the belief to “it is safe to spend money, without stress, in my ease and pleasure” and “the more money I spend on what truly nourishes me, the more money will flow to me.”
Once I had re-framed this limiting belief into an expansive one, I begun embodying a state beyond my conditioning…
One of the most important factors to remember if you want your money manifestations to actually work, is to consciously live with the frequency you want to be attracted back to you. If you’re living your life according to scarcity and embodying that energy, that’s the energy you’re projecting out and that’s the energy you will be attracting back to you.
If you’re living with the frequency of someone who is abundant and overflowing in all areas of life, including financially, that’s the energy you will attract back to you.
The key to recalibrating your frequency is creating a felt sense in your body of what it would feel like to have the money you desire. The mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination… See the reality you desire with as much clarity and detail as possible, feel how your body feels when you have everything you’ve wished for. Feel the excitement, joy and EXPANSION filling your being.
Connect to the person you would be if you had the money you desire and embody their energy. Tune into who that person is and become them: make decisions as if you were them, walk and talk as if you were them… show up in the world as if you were them.
Breathe, move, sound and feel who you are when you’re not just the conditioning of your parents and society.
It’s also very important that you let go of attachment to whatever you’re manifesting. The best way to do this is to create a solid foundation within. Don’t be reliant on money for happiness; if you do this you will never truly be happy. Instead, cultivate a life overflowing with joy and then manifest from a place of expansion… you don’t need money to be happy, however it will add more ease and freedom to your already happy life. It is extremely liberating to know you are happy within, no matter how much money you have.
Acknowledge the things in your life that make you happy and practice gratitude for them every day!
Below is a practice I like to do when I’m working on shifting limiting beliefs and re-calibrating my energy to be in resonance with all that I want:
- Bring your attention to your breath; feel the connection between the vibration of your breath and your body.
- Envision what it is that you desire, for money, don’t just envision the money but see the vision of what you would do if you had that money. What would your life look like? How would you feel? What are you doing?
- Develop a relationship with that vision and call it into your being. I love to imagine I’m breathing it up through my root chakra. Clearly see the amount you’re manifesting, the life you want and then start bringing that energy up into your body with the breath. By doing this, you’re expanding your nervous systems capacity to hold the amount you desire and live the life you want.
- Let the money seep into every cell of your body, flowing through you and then overflowing out. Always see the money overflowing out of you, don’t limit it to being stuck with you. I feel it coming in and then I feel it flowing out; flowing out to both things I desire, the people I love and my community.
Note: Pleasure is the best nervous system regulator! Stay relaxed and in your ease as you manifest, feeling the energy coming in and then overflowing back out. Do it every day!! Don’t just try manifesting for a week and expect everything to change. Take the time every morning to sit with yourself and call in that vision of what you desire: see the money you desire, the life that will allow you to have and the person you are when you have that money. See it and then embody it!
Know that you are already worthy of all that you desire and feel safe to receive that.
Have trust and surrender that the universe is working in your favour. Everything you want is possible and you are capable of manifesting absolutely anything you want in this life!
I invite you now to set an intention: the intention to live with the mindset of projection and reflection: the universal principle that what we project gets reflected back to us.
Make the choice now to become the highest version of yourself; start putting attention and energy towards this life that will soon be yours and activate your will to make it happen!
Just because we are manifesting something, that doesn’t mean it will always be an easy path to get there. When you evolve (whether it be with money, work or relationship), you’re stepping out of your comfort zone and what’s normal for you; it’s going to feel a little uncomfortable because change is a little uncomfortable! Don’t resist the un-comfortability, it’s an inevitable part of the process.
Instead, feel the un-comfortability and do it anyway!
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